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Posted March 27th, 2007 by BrideFu TeamFiled Under: Wedding Tools and Resources, For the Bride, What's New at BrideFu
| Bridezillas, Whose Wedding Is It Anyway, Wedding Belles. All these television shows portray brides as anal-retentive monsters. But we all know that brides are far from that! Every bride just wants her special day to be perfect. Now, everyone involved more than likely wants taht as well, but with so much happening and so many things to keep in check, miscommunication can happen and misunderstandings are common. So how does an excited bride keep from looking like a Bridezilla in the eyes of those around her? As simple as counting to ten! |  |
| 1. Breathe: Remember to breathe! Not short shallow breaths but long, deep breaths. When your heartbeat quickens because of some almost-mishap, take a few long deep breaths BEFORE you react. If you’re still feeling flustered and anxious, take a step back and, for a minute or two, calm yourself down with deep breathing exercises or meditation. The key to deep breathing is to breath through your nose, pushing out your stomach while you do it, and then exhale through your mouth, slowly. | |
| 2. Take it Slow: You know that feeling, quickened heartbeat, beads of perspiration starting to form, stumbling over your words. Those are some signs of stress but to avoid becoming overwhelmed with stress and to avoid all together, take things slowly. Breathe slowly, speak more slowly than normal. It forces your mind to take a breather here and there, instead of rushing through your thoughts (which can lead to feelings of impatience with others). Slowing down will also allow you more time to think through your thoughts and words more clearly to avoid any miscommunication. The best benefit of slowing down: you look like and are completely in control. |  |
| 3. One (Easy) Task at a Time: Speaking of being completely in control, try some time-managed effectiveness when it comes to your wedding planning process. There are many parts to planning a wedding, some that are immensely fun and exciting (ie: the gown, the caterer) and some that are boring but short. For example, seating arrangements at the reception. Can be boring, but are also quick and easy. Just take a chunk of time out one day, say an hour, and go through all the tables and guests and seat everyone. These quick and easy tasks are, more often than not, put off to make time for bigger, more complex planning tasks. But finishing these little tasks gives a boost of energy and a feeling of accomplishment that can keep you going. |  |
| 4. Let it Roll: Sure, there are plenty of little things that can bother or annoy you on your wedding day. But, remember, you have only one day for your wedding! (With the exception of those brides who have wedding weekends…but nonetheless the principle still stands.) Let little things go, little annoyances, little trivial things. Don’t let them stress you out or anger you on your big day. When you feel yourself getting annoyed or angry, especially at something that is trivial or, in the bigger picture, unimportant, let it go. You may have to practice this “art” of letting things go but, trust us, it will make your wedding day, and your life, a lot smoother. But it starts with you. You have to make a conscious effort to decide that you will not let little things bother you, to waste your time and energy when you have bigger, better things to put your energy into. | |
| 5. Shake What Your Mama Gave You: No, we don’t mean your booty, at least not until the reception anyways. We mean your shoulders. Shaking your shoulders actually releases tension, which, of course, calms you down. If possible, shake your whole body, preferably in private or something, to relieve tension. The best way to relieve tension is by tensing and then releasing your muscles, each muscle group at a time. This works best when you are able to lay down. So if possible, find a soft place to lay down, the best is if you can also doze off for a bit there because this yoga exercise can really bring you to la-la land easily. Lay flat on the floor or bed. Starting from your toes, tense each muscle group (ie: toes, then calves, then thighs, then buttocks, etc.) for a 2-3 seconds, then slowly release and let that body part “sink” into the ground or bed. Continue on until you finish all the muscle groups, even the ones in your head. If you aren’t asleep at that point, surely you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. If you do fall asleep, well, you’ll wake up feeling refreshed, which is what every bride should feel! | |
| 6. Fresh Air Will Do You Good: If you start to feel flustered from stress or anything else that may be aggravating you, take a step outside alone or with a trusted confidante. Get a breathe of fresh air! Or better yet, exercise! Even a short exercise will do your body and nervous system some good. If the weather is less than beautiful, stand outside for a few minutes on a balcony or in a garden or at least open some windows and gaze outside for a few minutes. It will help to clear air and your mind. |  |
| 7. Refuel and Recharge: Stress can be brought on by hunger or dehydration. If you haven’t eaten in a while, that’s definitely a contributing player in your stress. Take a swig of water and lots of it. Grab a small but healthy snack, nothing unhealthy so you stick to your regimen towards radiant skin. If you have time, squeeze in a pampering session, a manicure or pedicure or just a soaking if you’ve already done that! |  |
| 8. Stand Up!: Good posture does wonders for your image, mood and nervous system. When you slouch, stoop or slump, your muscles take the brunt of the tension. This can further increase the intensity of your stress level, so much so that your muscles are not just tense but can be truly painful. So, stand up straight, shoulders back, head high! | |
| 9. Positively Motivated: Oh finally, your big day is here! Sure you think there are so many things to worry about but you know what? Push those negative thoughts aside! The less you think about possible what-if’s, the more you will actually enjoy your wedding! If you’ve done all that you can to make your wedding spectacular, then don’t worry! Focus on the beautifully happy moments of your wedding! Just let the good times roll! | |
| 10. Laughter is the Best Solution: Finally, the best way to avoid being a Bridezilla, laugh! Enjoy yourself! It’s a beautiful day! It’s a wedding! Laugh a little and kick stress to the curb. Don’t believe us? Just try to be stressed out and have a hearty laugh at the same time. Little difficult, right? Golden Rule: Laughter keeps the stress away! |
